Men’s Mental Health Month

                  In June 1994 was established as Men’s Mental Health Month in the United States. The purpose was to raise awareness about mental health issues affecting men as well as to encourage open discussions about mental well-being. Organizations involved in Men’s Mental Health Month promote access to resources, support, and open conversations. 

                  Men’s Mental Health Month is especially important due to concerns about high rates of suicide among men, untreated depression and anxiety in men, substance abuse and addiction, and the reluctance of men to seek help due to stigma, cultural norms, and lack of access. Each one of these increasing rates is cause for concern on their own. Combined they show a serious need to address mental health in men.

                  The stigma surrounding mental health in men starts when they are just boys. Too often boys are discouraged from showing their emotions. They often hear that “boys don’t cry.” This statement is so damaging. It discourages boys from showing emotions, especially difficult or painful emotions. 

                  Boys and men frequently hear the phrase “man up”. This is another damaging idea taught to boys. They are taught that men don’t show their emotions. Again, this is damaging and can lead to mental health issues later in life.

Boys who grow up afraid to show their emotions become men who do not know how express their emotions in a healthy way.  Often these boys learn to deny, ignore, or bury their emotions, especially emotions like sadness, fear, or vulnerability. This can lead them to become disconnected from their own feelings. They may also be unable to name or express their emotions. When emotions are repressed in this way, it often results in numbness or outbursts. When sadness, shame, or fear are repressed, they may resurface as aggression, irritability, or violence toward themselves or others. 

When boys are taught to suppress their emotions, they do not develop the skills to understand or regulate those emotions. This can lead to a lack of ability to emphasize deeply with others. 

Boys and men need permission and encouragement to feel all emotions, even emotions that they have traditionally been taught to repress. They need role models who demonstrate that strength includes vulnerability. (See my last post "Being Vulnerable" for a discussion on vulnerability.) Boys and men also need safe environments in which they can express emotions without judgement. Another important thing to provide boys and men with is access to mental health education and support from a young age.

As you can see there is a definite need for Men’s Mental Health Month. Since the needs for mental health education and support are developed early and boys often are faced with stigma in comments such as “Boys don’t cry” or “Man up”, perhaps we should call it Men’s and Boys’ Mental Health Month. Both men and boys need to have access to help.

Let’s take a moment to understand the goals of Men’ Mental Health Month. One is to break the stigma around talking about emotions and mental struggles. A second goal is to encourage men to seek help when they experience mental distress. Promoting preventative care is another goal of Men’s Mental Health Month. A fourth goal, which is similar to the promoting preventative care is educating communities about the signs of mental health issues in boys and men. As someone who has spent close to three decades in education, I believe we need to do more in the school system. I think there should be a mandatory mental health class at both the later elementary and high school levels. In addition to this, mental health lessons should be part of the middle school health curriculum. It is not enough to teach it once. Our young people need to learn about mental health often. Another goal of Men’s Mental Health Month is to support marginalized groups, such as BIPOC men, LGBTQ+ individuals, and veterans. These groups might face additional barriers to mental health care and need the additional support. 

While June is a month dedicated to men’s mental health, we need to be focused on the mental health needs of men all year long. Mental health needs of all people need to be addressed year-round. When we dedicate a month to something like men’s mental health, the purpose is to draw increased attention. The focus of this month should shift into our everyday lives. It should be a part of overall mental health advocacy. 

Everyone should feel safe expressing their emotions. It is okay to cry, no matter who you are. It is okay to seek help. It is okay to be vulnerable. Emotions are a part of who we are. We need to give our emotions an outlet. Don’t stifle your emotions or force someone else to repress theirs. These are important steps to ending the stigma surrounding mental health in men and in everyone.