The Value of Peer Support

                 The last few years I become aware that my illnesses, both mental and physical, need more than just professional treatment. While those treatments are important in my battles with depression, anxiety, and cancer, something was missing for a long time. I was alone. My journal was the only place I shared my thoughts and feelings. My journal was the listening ear that wasn’t paid by my health insurance. 

                  The isolation I experienced limited my healing. It kept the pains I lived with and the fears that haunted me pent up inside of me. Then I discovered that I was not alone. This revelation came thanks to NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness). When I became involved with this organization, I learned that others shared similar experiences to mine. I learned I have peers in the struggle with mental illness. This realization led to me becoming more involved with NAMI. I participated in programs and awareness activities. I have grown through my involvement. Now, I even lead groups. 

                  My experiences with peer support through NAMI made it easier for me to join a cancer support group after I was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. Once a week for the last two years, I have met with a group of people who are also facing this monster disease. As I think about all the conversations we have had over the last two years, I realize how close I have become to these people. We have supported each other and lifted each other up during the bad times. Having peers while I faced cancer has allowed me to understand my cancer better. Knowing I am not alone has reduced my fears and eased my anxiety. 

                  With both my mental illness and cancer, peer support has been a valuable part of healing and living with the illnesses. I know that without these people who have become an integral part of my life, I would not be in the place I am. I would not be doing as well as I now am. When you have peers to share the journey, you are not alone. You face struggles together. You grieve when necessary. You celebrate the victories no matter how small. 

                  Knowing peer support has made a difference in my life, I decided to learn a little about the recognized values of this form of support. I discovered seven benefits of peer support. The benefits address emotional, social, and practical needs. The benefits result from the connection with others who share similar experiences. Here are the benefits:

 

·      Emotional validation and understanding: Through shared experiences peers can offer empathy and understanding that professionals and loved ones without the illness may not be able to express. The shared experience reduces feelings of isolation and shame. It also reduces that feeling of being alone or the only one facing the illness.

·      Reduced stigma: Talking openly with peers who understand what you are going through helps to normalize the experience. As stigma is reduced, acceptance is increased.

·      Hope and empowerment: When we see others who have made progress in their illness or are managing it successfully, we find hope. Peer support also promotes a sense of agency. We see that recovery or better management of the illness is possible.

·      Social connection: Peer support groups build community and friendship. This is important when fighting illness. The social connection fostered in peer support groups can reduce feelings of loneliness.

·      Increased engagement with care: When talking with peers we can learn to trust the healthcare system. Hearing the positive experiences of others can increase our willingness to seek treatment or follow treatment plans. It can also make us aware of what we want to avoid in treatment. 

·      Personal growth and purpose: Supporting each other in a peer support group can provide a sense of self-worth and purpose. As this happens our own recovery or coping journey is reinforced. 

 

        I know I am a stronger person and better able to fight my illnesses because of the

peer support I receive through NAMI and my cancer support group. I have grown through peer support. I hope that I have offered my peers as much as I have received from them. Together we forge ahead in our illness journeys. I am grateful for these peers that I now call friends. 

                  As I prepare to return to work, I fear losing some of my connection to my peer support. These people are such an integral part of my life now. I trust I will find ways to stay connected and check in as often as work allows. My peers are just as important in my recovery as the treatments I have received. They helped me through those treatments. Peer support is a valuable part of my illness recovery and can be an important part of yours. If you are facing an illness, reach out to groups like NAMI, the Cancer Support Community, or an organization specializing in your illness. Peer support is valuable part of healing from any illness.