Yesterday I realized that I have neglected to post about Men’s Mental Health Month. June became has grown into Men’s Mental Health Month after Congress established and President Bill Clinton signed into law Men’s Mental Health Week in 1994. That’s a long time ago. I am not sure we have made the progress we should have by now.
I realized that I had missed posting about this month when I felt like I was adding stress to my brother’s plate. He does not have a mental illness, but he has stressors right now, including my mother’s health and care. Men often deal with stressors that can affect their mental health without any support. Men’s Mental Health Month works to change that as well support men who live with mental illnesses. There is an effort to raise awareness of the mental health challenges men face and to encourage access to support, treatment, and community.
Reducing Stigma
I could start this discussion in many ways, but I think reducing stigma can be encompassing of a lot of the issues surrounding men’s mental health. Traditionally, men are seen as the strong ones, the providers. Men are expected to be tough. Often, it is assumed that men can take care of things. This perception can lay a heavy burden on any man, but especially on a man who may have a mental illness. We need to change this perception. Men do struggle emotionally. Men need support. They cannot do everything alone.
As we look to reduce stigma, we need to recognize that it may be difficult for men to talk about emotional struggles. This is just not something that has been a part of the traditional norm in many countries. What if we can provide spaces for men to discuss what they are feeling openly and with the knowledge that it is safe to do so? That seems doable. If not, it should be.
Along with this we need to normalize men seeking to go to therapy. This is crucial. Therapy is an important part of treating mental illness. Access to therapy is for the most part there, although it could be improved. One of the remaining issues is reducing the stigma. There is this false idea that it is sign of weakness to go to therapy. There is also the misconception that men can just “suck it up” and deal with emotional issues or mental health issues. This is why awareness efforts are important. We can share information about what therapy or counseling really is and how it can help men.
Discussing Symptoms
Mental illnesses have symptoms that are identified as typical of each illness. However, at times symptoms can look different in men. We need to be willing to discuss this and, again, raise awareness. For example, men with depression and/or anxiety might exhibit anger or irritability, risk-taking behaviors, substance abuse, social withdrawal, or excessive work or avoidance. If we can have open discussions about these symptoms, it can lead to men getting the help they need. It goes back to awareness. Friends and loved ones need to be able to recognize these symptoms so that they can offer support or encourage their loved one to seek help.
Acknowledging the High Suicide Rate Among Men
As we are raising awareness about men’s mental health, we need to remember that there is a high rate of suicide among men. Awareness efforts should recognize the suicide rates. Efforts should also be centered on prevention. This includes providing easy access to mental health services. Recognizing warning signs can help with this.
Direct Suicide Warning Signs
- Talking about wanting to die or kill oneself
- Expressing feelings of hopelessness or having no reason to live
- Saying they feel trapped or that things will never get better
- Talking about being a burden to others
- Looking for ways to die, such as researching suicide methods or obtaining means
There can also be emotional or behavioral changes including withdrawing from family, friends, and activities they previously enjoyed, loss of interest in work, activities, or hobbies, being noticeably depressed, anxious, or emotionally numb, increased irritability, anger, or aggression, dramatic mood swings, and risk-taking behaviors.
Support Systems That Can Help
Providing systems to support men with their mental health is crucial. We cannot leave this to just Men’s Mental Health Month. It is important to work to provide access to therapy and counseling year-round. Encouraging the creation of more peer support groups for men is important. We also need to encourage men to join these groups. Doing this requires normalizing participation in these groups. Employee assistance programs can be an important support system.
We have more crisis support systems than we have had in the past. It is important that we continue to advocate for funding of crisis support systems. Normalization is needed here as well. Men need to know that it is okay to reach out for help. They need to know that if they are in crisis they can call 911 or 988. They need to know that they can ask a family member or friend to help connect them to crisis support.
Another important part of developing support systems involves education. We need to reach families with education about mental health. It is important to get education and resources in schools and workplaces. This goes back to one of the keys of mental health awareness. We need to make it okay to talk about mental health. We need to let men know that it is okay to talk about mental health.
Final Thoughts
Going back to the situation I opened this post with. I am realizing that I have failed at supporting my brother. I spend so much time talking about mental health. Maybe once in a while I need to ask my brother if he is okay. I cannot just talk about mental health without putting what I talk about into practice. I am not saying my brother has a mental illness. I just think maybe he might appreciate being checked in on. I ask you to do the same. Check in on the men in your life.
