The other day I saw a meme that said, “Sometimes your brain can be a lying piece of sh**.” That really resonated with me. My brain is often filled with negative messages. My depression and anxiety spur these negative messages on daily. I have come to realize that these negative messages often are not true. It is difficult to deal with them but recognizing them as untrue is an important step.
My brain has been lying to me most of my life. It tells me that I cannot do things. It tells me that everything is going to go wrong. My brain likes to force the idea that I am worthless on me. The truth is my brain is lying. Unfortunately, depression encourages me to believe these things. Depression grasps the negative and magnifies it, allowing my brain’s lies to drag me down. That is the power of our brains and the power of depression.
What if we could turn this negativity around? What if we could present the truth to the lies? Not easy tasks, but they are tasks worth trying. When our brains are lying to us the first thing we need to do is recognize the lie. We cannot stop the lie if we do not acknowledge it. Acknowledging the lie might sound like, “Okay, I know that is not true. I am not going to be led by lies” or “Stop. That is a lie.” We don’t have to say it out loud. It can be said in our heads. However, if saying it out loud helps, do it. Sometimes I find myself needing to talk back to my thoughts out loud.
Once we have acknowledged that a thought our brain is telling us is a lie, we need to rephrase it. Let’s say my brain is telling me that I am going to mess up a work project. After telling my brain that it is lying, I might say something like, “I have successfully completed projects like this in the past, there is no reason to believe I won’t be successful this time.” What if our brains are telling us that no one cares about us? Again, we first tell our brain to stop. Then we can point out at least one person who does care. Maybe we cannot think of a friend or family member in the moment because we really believe we are alone. I have been there. This happens. Could we tell our brain, “Well, my psychiatrist or psychologist cares”? I realize there is a rabbit hole looming there. Our brain will tell us that he or she must act like they care because they are being paid. Maybe in this instance we need to just state it as a fact. It will help gets us through the brain’s lies. I also believe that most psychiatrists and psychologists actually do care, or they wouldn’t be doing the work they do.
Talking back to our brain’s lies is not easy. It takes a lot of work. It is hard for people without depression. So, it makes sense that it is even harder for those of us who are faced with depression. Depression enjoys latching onto the brain’s lies. This is how it tears us down. We need to try to talk back to the lies. The more we do it, the more likely talking back will become a habit. I am not saying this will cure our depression, but I do believe that talking back to our brains is a tool we can use to help ourselves.
Remember, as amazing as our brains are, there times when the brain is a lying piece of sh**. At those times we need to take control. We need to speak back to our brains. Think of it this way, if a person spoke to someone you cared about the way our brains speak to us, would you allow it? Of course not. We cannot allow our brains to speak to us in a way we would not tolerate it speaking to those we care about.