Today I would like to explore a metaphor that I thought about as I was coming out of esketamine treatment today. The effects of esketamine left me thinking about the feeling of a blanket. Maybe I was cold or just looking for a little comfort. Either way I thought about how depression sometimes blankets me. At times depression can be a blanket, heavy and encompassing. This contradicts the image a blanket often conjures up for people. That image of lying on a sofa on a rainy day, curled up, warm and cozy, under a blanket. Depression is nothing like that comfortable image. At least it is not for me.
Depression feels like a blanket is covering me from head to toe. It is a heavy blanket, much like a weighted blanket, but without the benefits attributed to weighted blankets. Depression’s blanket is just heavy. It is a weight bearing down on me. This weight prevents me from moving much. It keeps me paralyzed in my bed. I feel like I cannot lift depression’s blanket on my own. Its heaviness traps me in the darkness.
Often, I am alone with this blanket of depression. Many people are. Depression is a lonely illness. Sometimes we are wrapped in that blanket and have no one to help us push the blanket to the floor. That is when the blanket, the depression, is in control. We need someone to reach out and offer a hand to pull the blanket off us.
I like to think about the blanket that waits for me on my couch. It is warm and soft. I like to lie under it and read. That is what a blanket should be. It should illicit feelings of comfort. Instead, I have this image of the blanket I know so well. It is dark, of course it is dark just like depression. From an outside perspective the blanket looks harmless. But I know its plan for me. It will wrap me in the darkness, drag my mood down. I have learned to fear the blanket of depression. I know it will hurt me and I will struggle under its weight. So, I reach for the light. I find that light in my mental health team, in my treatment, and in getting involved in life. It is not easy to reach out, but it is necessary. It is the only way to strip that blanket of depression of its strength.
As I mentioned at the start of this post, I felt the presence of a blanket as I was emerging form the effects of esketamine today. I can never be sure what the images I “see” during esketamine mean. My mind is working on healing. It conjures up images and feelings. There are usually colors, bright colors welcoming me. Today’s blanket meant something. Maybe it means comfort is coming my way. Maybe the heaviness of depression’s blanket was floating away on one of the colorful clouds that lift me during treatment. That would mean I am healing. I thinking I am healing. There is still a long way to go, and I know there will be ups and downs. The depression will emerge and recess at its own will, but I am making strides in the right direction. The esketamine is working. Therapy is working. Conversations with my mental health team are lifting me. Grounding myself in my senses is working. The blanket of depression is losing some of its heaviness. It may be happening slowly, but it is happening.